My AH is coming home from detox/rehab after three weeks either tomorrow or Friday. He is going straight into IOP. Judy (SerenityQueen) has given me some EXCELLENT advice about the transition such as: 1. Do NOT ask him if he's going to go to a meeting (except maybe once then drop it). 2. Do NOT expec...

I am the parent of a teen who has lost a boyfriend just over one week ago. My daughter is 18, her boyfriend would be 19 April 9th. Let me tell you about this young man. He had a very tough life, but always had a smile on his face and had the biggest heart a person could have. Even though his life wa...

I thought about how my life has changed so drastically in the last few months, especially now that I am living without an A in my household - this morning I was reading the post of some of my dear friends that are still living with an active A and my heart broke for them. I thought maybe I would sha...

Tomorrow my AD goes to court for the exparte she has against her H. She has been clean & working her recovery program for 3 1/2 months. Going to court tomorrow has her very ansty. As you might remember several weeks ago, when she left her H, he came and took the baby (1 yr old) and hid her, woul...

well here is an update. and a vent. its just a hard day. about two or so ago, i was still so depressed, just found a good combination of meds... but i decided i needed to focus on school and move / go to school on campus. it was too hard online, i wasnt motivated anyway etc. right before i left, i h...

I know I shouldn't be wondering about this, but I am so please hear me out. When they leave you for another women who shares their drug habit, is it better for them or are they happier with them, because I or you didn't do drugs? The last time I saw me ex and we discussed this I told him that he wou...

Hi all, I've been a member here for 5 years and have a question. I have been around the "no-contact-take-him-back" mountain 500 million times it seems, learning more each time. Four months ago abf relapsed on what I think is meth, not sure..just notice his weight loss, sweaty vinegar odor....

I read the post on here about Miss who lost her friend to an OD and I got thinking about my life. Then I got thinking about my abf. Then the tears started. I feel so lost in my own life. It's so hard to deal with all this. I'm the type that let's things get so far gone that all at once it hits me. T...

My AD's rehab counselor recommends that after her thirty days that she go to a clean and sober living environment. I agree; things didn't work out for her here at home. She just fell back into drug use. I think I found out about her drug use soon ( I know the signs), called her on it quickly and gav...

Some my recall I kicked out my AH after I found out he was a heroin user. Well now I'm alone, freaking out financially. I'm in the process of getting a legal separation. Now I find out my husband just hit the jack-pot so to speak. His family bought him a new truck. AND NOW HE JUST INHERITED A HUGE B...