Warm weather was “our thing” – we spent tons of time doing yard work, gardening, fishing, staying outside until late, sitting and talking on the back porch. Of course he would drink most of those times and some of those times were NOT happy times but a lot of them were. So now with the onset of s...

I wonder if I confused the constant “drama and turmoil” in my most recent relationship with “passion”. The fact that there was always a small part of him that was elusive to me was kind of like the game of “hard to get” I suppose. Just thinking out loud here – but I wonder if a more healthy r...

ItÂ’s been 7 months since I said goodbye to my xabf. IÂ’m posting this because maybe there are some out there that in spite of knowing that things are not going to change, you are still holding on to your life with an alcoholic/addict. It could be for a variety of reasons, but MY reason for holding ...

Here is an article I found on another board. I posted it here on the Family and Friends of Substance Abusers also. The "charmer" is/was my x to a TEE. Not only is my x an alcoholic, he is also a crack addict (in denial of course). I've saved this article on my computer so that I can go bac...

Hello all. I found this on another board that I read and I thought someone here might need this today. I will say that the Charmer was my x to a TEE!!!! Very scary stuff - especially the quote at the bottom. How true how true! Charmers and Con Artists by Brenda Branson In her book, Charmers & Co...

Long story short – I heard from him over the weekend. Answered his FIRST call (unavailable #) – he says it was wrong number and he was sorry for calling me but still has me on his #1 speed dial. I said ok and hung up. However, he kept calling back and I kept hitting ignore. Then while I was out wi...

No contact for either of us but I saw him yesterday with his NEW skank driving his truck. I'm sad. I'm hurt. I'm pissed. All I can think is what a wonderful time he must be having with his new life b/c he doesn't have me around to bitch at him about his drinking. Why does he get to be happy? Why doe...

Sheesh. I've actually been doing REALLY well the past couple of days. I love him and I miss him but I KNOW that I can NOT take him back. Actually, I'm pretty sure that I don't even WANT him back b/c there is WAY too much water under the bridge at this point. However, I'm feeling guilty about things ...

I'm just numb. I got a call last night that confirmed what I pretty much already knew. He has shacked up in his hotel with the latest barfly. That didn't take long huh? Less than 2 weeks and I've been replaced after 2 years of torturous hell? I hope she is as much of a drunk as he is - let him live ...

Being the co-dependent that I am I was right on the verge of letting him come back and then my gut was telling me something so I did some sleuthing and found out even MORE crap that's been going on so I immediately told him NEVERMIND it's over - I'm done. Of course, he's denying everything but it do...